"Yo Vindog! I've somehow ended up in a relationship with a strict no porn policy. What should I do?"
On February 13th, jwags313 writes:
"Yo, Vindog! I've somehow ended up in a relationship with a strict no porn policy. What should I do? I've tried to explain to her that she need not take it so personally but well ya know… any advice?"
Hey, jwags313, know that you're not alone. Many women don't like porn and forbid their boyfriends from indulging.
I'm assuming the best possible scenario is that your girlfriend not only allows you to watch porn but, ultimately, learns to enjoy watching it with you.
If that's the case, first, you have to change the way she thinks about porn, and the best way to do that is to refer to it as “instructional sex videos aimed at helping couples take their sexual experience to the next level.” Do your best to normalize porn and make her comfortable enough to give it a try.
Make it all about her. Tell her all you want to do is increase her overall sexual pleasure and intensify her orgasms because you love her.
Let her know that, although instructional sex videos may seem a little crude at first, not to worry, to think only of the endgame: increased sexual pleasure and more intense orgasms! Easing her into it will only serve to help your long game…
Choose the first video carefully. Absolutely nothing that demeans women! Find one that empowers the female, even puts them in control of the action.
If your GF is a control freak, let that carry over into her sexual experience with porn. She’ll likely prefer female-dominant sexual experiences and a little soft porn with that as its theme might be right up her alley. If she’s more of the submissive type, there’s plenty of porn out there for her too. Know your GF and choose carefully!
If she responds well to soft porn, next, choose a video that’ll take her to the next level but not one she'll be intimidated by. No freaky shit! When it comes to introducing porn to your GF, it’s all about baby steps and keeping it real…
After her fourth or fifth porn experience, you might find her wanting to choose the videos herself and more willing to tell you which ones turn her on. That’s when the real fun begins.
And have designated “porn nights” that work for both of you. That way, both of you can think about it all day. That’ll get her in the mood early and have her dripping with anticipation when it's time…
Don’t be surprised if you end up creating an unadulterated porn freak, and she starts enjoying it as much or more than you. That’s the perfect time to introduce sex toys, role play, costumes, and possibly, a threesome…
Most women need persuading, but eventually, they'll come around and realize there’s nothing wrong with enjoying a little porn with their BFs. That it’s a great way to bond sexually, and couples who watch porn together stay together! You can drive that one home…
Happy Valentine's Day!
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